Love is not the purpose
Love between people is not the reason for being of your existence, in other words: you are not alive to love people nor to be loved. It is good to love and to be loved it is better that to hate everybody and to be hated but it is not the subject, the purpose of the human life.
I often read, on the social networks, the sharing of people who advocate the empathy, the compassion, love for others and praise the deserves of such Indian wise person, such guru which speaks about love, to develop your altruistic qualities.
This gurus are not spiritual masters. Doubtless these people are holy people, really but not gurus. A wise person who teaches you love is a beautiful person who deserves your respect and your affection and an example of the fact what a human being may be for the good of all, but the purpose, the reason for being of your life is not to love and a guru has to allow you to discover and to achieve the reason of your coming on Earth, not to teach you love. The saints are here for that and a guru is not necessarily a saint.
A holy person maybe an example not a spiritual guide. The purpose of the human life is not to become holy either a kind person or a lover.
This idea is well an inheritance of the Christian religion: "Have love one for another; even as I have had love for you, so are you to have love one for another" [John 13:34] but really the Christ did not address to all the people but to his very rare disciples and he sent them this command so that they stand by and examples in their mission of sermon.
The exact quotation of the Christ, as it was passed on to us by the Gospels is: " My dear children, I am only to be with you a little longer. Then you will be looking for me: and as I said to the Jews, so now I say to you, Where I am going you may not come. I give you a new law: Have love one for another; even as I have had love for you, so are you to have love one for another. By this it will be clear to all men that you are my disciples, if you have love one for another ".
[John 13: in 33.34.35]
[John 13: in 33.34.35]
A spiritual guide, a guru has to bring his disciples, his Chela to the Liberation of the Samsâra chains - the cycle of the incarnations- by teaching them a "method", or Sàdhana allowing them to go out of the illusion, the confusion.
This true, deep spiritual approach takes place inside the disciple and the others are not concerned at all. Your relation with the others is not taken into account in the deep Meditation, or dhyàna. The biggest mystic isolate themselves from the world and dedicate themselves completely to the quest of the Liberation.
You are not all intended to live in hermits and doubtless have a social and a family life, and a loving one, and for this kind of relationship love can be conceived and can even justify itself. it is not bad to be altruistic or full of empathy but this quality of feelings, once again, will not take you forward one millimeter towards the fulfillment of your reason for living, the Liberation.
The Christian religion teaches, on the contrary, that to cultivate these feelings, these virtues and this behavior makes you go to the steps of the Christ and, so, win the Celestial kingdom. Nothing in the teaching of the Christ, which I know and which I respect, does not really say that and the Kingdom to win is inside that he said it !
" If those who guide you tell you: well, the Kingdom is in the sky, then the birds of the sky will anticipate you. If they tell you: it is in the sea, then fishes will precede you; but the Kingdom is within you and it is outside of you. "
[Thomas, logion 3]
The purpose of your life is either to love nor to be happy.
Love and happiness are certainly more pleasant than the hatred or the indifference and the misfortune and if you have the choice, it is not stupid to favor them and to look for them but nothing prevents from loving, from being loved and happy while working at your Liberation.
What I want let you understand is that they are different things. If you are seeker, eager to find the real, fundamental reason of your life, why it has been given to you, then the search for the well-being, the sentimental love should not divert you of your spiritual fulfillment.
A guide, a guru which commend love between people attracts a lot of people because this speech pleases them and corresponds to their convictions but a guide is not there to flatter the people. Are you sure that a guru, that a guru which attracts most people delivers the most spiritually and coherent teaching ?
The purpose of the life is either to love or to be happy. The purpose of your life, as of any lives, is to return at the source of everything, where your soul comes from, in full Conscience. To achieve this, there are things to do and love is not a part of it even if it isn’t prohibided nor unpleasant to love when we are loved in return by another person.